When Do I Start Telling Her?

I am wondering about when I start telling my little girl about her situation. She is only 9 months old now, but the inevitable looms over me all the time and I am wondering what you other ladies have thought about when it comes to telling your little ones. Do you have a time (age) planned? Have you bought any “How To Books”? Do you have a plan to tell at all?

We do plan on telling her, I just have no idea when I start. I get such conflicting advice from reading others on the web. The one thing that does seem universal is that it is better to tell when they are younger. But what constitutes Young? Do I start refering to her DONOR, now? Is 3 the right time, does she have to understand the “Birds and the Bees first?

It sure feels like murky waters to me. I know that when she is a teenager/young adult she will find something to blame me for, something I did that screwed up her life, I just don’t want it to be this.


39 year old Mom to 3 DI babies, ages 2 and 1 year old twins.

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One comment on “When Do I Start Telling Her?
  1. Hi Marika,

    I joined your FB group (listed as Emily Jones.) My blog is password-protected but feel free to send me an email if you want to read it. (It might be a little disappointing compared to Somewhat Ordinary’s though 🙂 )

    Anyway, I’m also trying to figure out when/how to ‘tell’ my daughter. I wish there was some age-appropriate book to read her just to start getting her used to some of the language. I know a few books exist but I’ve been a little disappointed in the ones I’ve seen.

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