On seeing the headline “Ontario To Fund In-Vitro Fertilization” in the National Post, it first seems like a triumph for IVF patients, and possibly once the formal announcement is made this will be a very positive thing for many heterosexual couples who desperately want to have children and cannot without the help of fertility treatments.
But with all the positive, there is already negative coming from this article. Who will get the golden ticket that will fund the $10,000 treatment per IVF round, who will be excluded as they are not seen as having “Infertility” because they are a single women or a same sex couple. Is infertility really a disease? What other medical resources could better be funded by this money? Why not just adopt? So many questions with so many different answers from so many different point of views.
After many years spent in the world of infertility I have learned that nothing comes without controversy and judgment from others about the choices that we as “Infertile” people make when it comes to creating our families.
We are accused of waiting to long to have children and that is why we need fertility treatments. This is such an ignorant statement, many of us did not wait and after many, many years of trying yes we got older, and finally turned to fertility treatments for help. Some of us knew that we would need the help of clinics but financially could not afford it until we were older and then again some of us were in our 20’s and early 30’s and needed the help. My husband and I got married at the age of 28, and we started trying to have children right away, it was not until we were in our mid 30’s that we were finally successful with the help of fertility treatments. Placing us all under a microscope and making the conclusion that we are infertile for the same reason is simply nonsense.
We are judged for not adopting children who are already needing homes, but those who judge this can never know the heart ache and mental anguish that comes from not being able to reproduce. Yes it may sound selfish but it is human instinct to want to create a likeness of yourself, at least that is my opinion, and how I felt. So we did not adopt, I reproduced and created new humans.
Really I could go on and on ranting about why as an infertile person getting funding is a good thing, IF it is shared with all, not just heterosexual couples who are under 35. Give it to same sex couples and single moms by choice as well. It will cause an entirely new level of discrimination in the realm of infertility.
But then again if I was a parent who had not experienced infertility and my child had an illness that needed medical funding to help I would probably be frantically opposing this and screaming at the government to give the money to my cause, to cure my child and not to spend it on something that is clearly not seen as life and death.
Oh Yeah and one more thing, We had twins so we are part of the problem on the medical system that has to deal with all the multiple births due to fertility treatments. Yup, we are that bad. We are the selfish people who wanted children with genetic ties and we ended up with twins….I will also admit to my evil self serving desire to be pregnant and give birth……….