This is the question, Why I have I chosen to type about my life, about what makes me a little different then the majority of the other moms out there. Why am I airing my secrets, my private moments, my inane thoughts. I am doing it in an effort to curb the effects, both positive and negative, of what I call my “DI Mom Madness”.
My goal is to type without remorse and without editing my thoughts. As I type this last sentence I realize I have already erased approximately 4 of my spontaneous thoughts fearing they may offend, obviously I will have to work on this.
So what is it I want to put out there, what is it I want to rant about on this, my first post? I think it is more of a question, that I will let linger out there and that is:
Why is that there is so much judgement within the infertility/fertility community? We are all trying to achieve the same goal, having children. Why then do we turn on each other for the choices we make when working towards this goal? I know, I know, ethics, politics, who deserves it and who doesn’t are just some of the debates, and yes we live in a world with unregulated fertility systems, where one country allows a procedure that another does not……..but if I start down this road I could be here all night….I have to revert back to my first question….Why do we judge each other?????????
I am a DI mom, I am 39, and my husband and I chose an anonymous donor……I am judged for my choices. Not just because I chose anonymous, but because I chose a donor at all. Why not adopt, why not accept a life without children, why, why, why…….Why be so selfish?